Comments on: Carefree or skinny? (um, yes?)

By: Andrea

Andrea — Sun, 10 Jan 2010 15:49:49 +0000

Great Post! I just had an epiphany. I love that once you or someone else can put it into words it kind of changes the hole programming. I think for me it wasn’t “carefree” but “flexible”, “unlimited”, “unrestrained” and oddly… “quick”.

By: pam

pam — Fri, 11 Dec 2009 20:30:46 +0000

I’m another one of those skinny girls who never worried about weight… the most i ever weighed was 150lbs (but that was soaking wet and 39weeks pregnacious to boot… in winter clothes)… I have been cosistently between 100 and 115lbs.

And guess what? I’m not blissfully happy EITHER!

I might not have to worry about my weight, but I do worry about my looks. Should I dye my hair, because of course men prefer blondes and I’m a natural brunette? I have to get my eyes fixed because i’m not attractive enough in glasses. I need to get a boob job because i’m not attractive with small boobs. I’m not tall enough, I’m not fit enough, I’m not sexy enough… you can drive yourself crazy working to be perfect and never getting there.

After working for years to get what I thought i wanted (or what I was told to want) I found myself without ANY of it. Why? I walked away. I wanted to be married because then I would be loved. And I wasnt’. I had children to get my husband to love me more, and he ignored me more (but I have my beautiful children). I got degrees to prove to everyone that i was intelligent… and still ended up a secretary…

Now I’m starting out finding what it is that *I* am… where do I fit in, where do I belong? And the biggest part is learning to feel GOOD with myself and not trying to fit into what other people believe would be best for me.

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By: Leah

Leah — Fri, 24 Jul 2009 20:21:36 +0000

This is such a good way of looking at it, Briana.

Over the winter I put on some weight and went into panic mode when none of my clothes were fitting. I went to extremes for a bit (joined and then quite a bootcamp class), totally changed my eating, kept a food journal, etc and I just kept gaining and losing the same 2 pounds.

I started to remember times when I weighed less and felt great and those were definitely not times I was worried about what I ate. I was simply happy and enjoying life.

So I stopped thinking about my weight and focused on feeling good instead. I didn’t beat myself up over what I did eat. I just focused on staying present. I started doing exercise I enjoyed instead of what I thought was best. And I let go of the rest. And then I lost weight. Go figure.

I like the idea of cultivating the feeling you want to have. I’m not sure I’m all that skilled at that yet (it sometimes feels forced), but I’m learning.

By: Nona

Nona — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 18:40:45 +0000

I love the concept of giving yourself the feeling that you want, instead of believing it will come from some external circumstance. Beautiful post!!

By: blisscovery

blisscovery — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 17:06:59 +0000

Wow, Miss Lissy, thank you so much for commenting. It seems like this side of the struggle is often ignored, I’m glad you shared your experience – and I certainly appreciate how painful it can be to feel judgment from either side. I am so happy that you’re learning to be happy just being you!

By: Miss Lissy

Miss Lissy — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 16:58:01 +0000

Skinniness definitely does not equal happiness. I should know. I’ve never weighed more than 115 pounds in my life. I used to have people accuse me of having an eating disorder. That was really hurtful because I absolutely love to eat. It’s caused me to strive to weigh more for a long time, until now, when I’m finally starting to be happy with my own weight.