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Being Yourself

I hated that question for 10 years. I never felt like I had the right answer. Unless I knew that your definition of “good weekend” would match mine, I was always unconsciously translating the goodness of my weekend into your terms and falling short. So even if it was a perfectly lovely weekend to me, [...]

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Being yourself online can be the strangest experience. (In addition to, you know, the basic essential weirdness of being a human being.) Sometimes you want to dip your toe in a certain water without making it a big deal or announcing anything. And then it can feel oddly disingenuous to not share everything with everyone. [...]

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I made friends with the tamale guy at the farmers’ market last Saturday. This is embarrassingly huge for me. Not making a friend so much – more to do with how it happened. I was waiting for someone who was standing in the world’s slowest line. (With the world’s oldest, sweetest farmer.) So I busied [...]

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Discombobulated. A word whose meaning and mouth-feel are so well-matched. And a dear cousin to one of my all-time favorite words: Bijigetty. So… This week I moved into my very own place. I even signed a lease. A twelve-month lease. Eeep! After a little review of my former living situations, I was shocked to discover [...]

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On feeling jealous

May 14, 2010

A few weeks ago I noticed that every time I’d see an article announcing someone’s good fortune or sparkly new thing, I wanted to throw up with jealousy. And it wasn’t only limited to celebratory announcements. Reading a kick-ass blog post made me want to chuck my computer at the wall. A couple gazing lovingly [...]

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Right now I’m shifting a bunch of things related to my work, which basically means I’m back to hot pursuit of The Thing. Even more than usual. And the ideas I’m heading toward started bringing up all of these memories of (weird) things I liked doing as a kid. (Another dose of nostalgia.) It’s reminding [...]

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Last week I listened to the loveliest, most delightful interview with Dr. Stuart Brown of The National Institute for Play. (!! Yes, that is apparently a thing. I know!! And a little note to my current clients: When he realizes how much I support him and his playful endeavors and decides that The Institute can’t [...]

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More adventures in snobbery

February 12, 2010

For years and years people have been describing me as sweet. Which never fails to surprise me. And has kinda rocked my proverbial boat because I’d gotten all used to wearing my snobby suit. Cramping my stuck up image and all. In Sarah’s latest series about online rockstar-dom, she wrote: The point, after all, isn’t to change yourself so [...]

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(Part 1 in a series of potentially infinite posts.) I’ve been thinking more about strengths and how the ones we end up cultivating have so much to do with how we’re socialized and wanting to fit in. And also, I’m getting sick of the term strengths; it sounds all sterile and externally determined. And that, [...]

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I know, I know, you totally saw it coming. Last week, I dreamt that a little girl was dangling from a cliff. And that her life was in my hands. Lately I have been working with this shadowey fear of getting into trouble. Or doing things wrong. Completely blind to the connection, I jotted down [...]

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