From the category archives:

Perfectionism

I recently confessed that sometimes I get scared of not being perfect enough, but I’m just as scared of being too perfect. For me, polar opposite fears are a good indication that something unconscious is running the show. (Why hello there, ego!) My Dance of Shiva practice is confusing the hell out of me helping me clarify [...]

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Good God I love paradox. And hate paradox. I’ve mentioned that a time or two, yes?
I have this wacked out pattern that consists of a main course of really, really wanting to be perfect with a side order of really, really not wanting to be “Little Miss Perfect.” I was aware of it on some [...]

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On Friday night I watched the original pilot of Seinfeld.  This is a testament to a couple of things: (1) my undying devotion to a show whose final curtain closed over ten years ago; and (2) my undying devotion to all things homebody-ish, like a Friday night at home with my old friends Jerry and [...]

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The right thing

July 20, 2009

Last night, in a rare moment of tv viewing, I caught part of a special on optimism hosted by Michael J. Fox.  During one segment, he was playing golf with Bill Murray.  
Golf is mentally challenging, so I hear, and causes many a calm and otherwise rational person to throw crazified tantrums on the green. [...]

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In my last post I talked about being afraid of shining and being afraid of not shining.  
These teeter-tottering fears make me wonder, which is real: (1) the fear of making a fool out of myself and people thinking I’m a complete idiot, or (2) the fear of shining, and people thinking I’m too big [...]

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Shadow of the spotlight

July 15, 2009

So many things in life seem perfectly orchestrated to bring out our stuff. Like maybe everything.  But definitely some things more than others, and I think public speaking might be one of those somethings.
First, it has the quality of terrifying many a person.  But I’m noticing a very strange dynamic where I find myself waffling [...]

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Confession.  I’m having some trouble striking just the right tone for this blog, and I’m pretty sure I know why.  I’m less sure about how to handle it.  The thing is, I see this blog as the opening introduction of myself as a personal coach, or mentor, or life designer, or bliss advocate, or whatever [...]

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