Comments on: Heat seeking missile

By: blisscovery

blisscovery — Sun, 26 Jul 2009 13:55:58 +0000

@Miranda – thank you for the tip, I will check it out! (love Barcelona!)

@Leah – so true that taking some time to search in yourself to get clarity changes the picture from major overwhelm to big time excitement – woohoo!

@Sandy – you are so sweet. We’ve all been there, hindsight and all that. It’s especially hard when you want a decision to be right so badly that you do whatever you can to ignore any little prickles of doubt.

@Brandi – that is such a hard thing to master with intentions – figuring out the what without obsessing over the how, I am right there with you!

By: brandi

brandi — Sun, 26 Jul 2009 12:47:10 +0000

I love this post-it is so true for me. Since claiming my joy rebely-ness (I also make up words *grin*), that has shifted and changed and grown and evolved and well, sometimes I just want ONE answer dammit! LOL. This has definitely been a lesson setting intention and then not CONTROLING every damn thing about that intention.

I believe, though, at the core I’m on the right path and the answers will be made clear for me. I believe that for you too-

By: Sandy Aldrich

Sandy Aldrich — Sun, 26 Jul 2009 00:47:00 +0000

Briana, you are very beautiful on your blog. I must say that my hot cold barometer often malfunctions and only alerts me of my wrong decision “after” I make it. Ugggh. And that announcement is thrust on me at 2:00 a.m. as my swirling mind (ego??) jolts me awake to tell me the news.

By: Leah

Leah — Fri, 24 Jul 2009 20:12:48 +0000

Oh, I could so relate to this post, Briana! The hubster and I are planning to buy our first home and now that the time is here to do it, we started wondering where the right place to live would be. And then we started wondering if we wanted to make a more drastic change and move to another state and then I got into a big tizzy of fear over what the “right” decision would be and felt down-right awful!

I found, as you did, that there is no perfect decision when it comes to things like this because life is constantly in flux and it’s unlikely that a place will hold every single element we’d like to have in one area (that’s why we love to travel!) But we can find a place that in this moment is pulling us like that heat seeking missile.

I had to take aside some time to journal and talk and write to friends about how I was feeling to help me get some clarity about what was most important to me about where we moved. And when I was able to acknowledge my fears and get some clarity on what I wanted, I felt so much better. Further discussions with the hubster and we now know where we want to live. Woohoo!.

Amazing how some clarity and inner-work led to moving from frenetic fear to excitement and energy.

I like the hotter/colder method a lot. I also like noticing what feels like a “hell yes!” and what feels just “eh.” I like how Martha Beck talked about as a constricted, shackles on experience versus a free, shackles off experience.

By: Miranda Wilkotz

Miranda Wilkotz — Fri, 24 Jul 2009 14:37:30 +0000

Marci Alboher wrote a post on using Suzy Welch’s 10-10-10 method of decision making – looking at your decision 10 minutes, 10 months and 10 years from where you are now – might help you integrate the perspective of change and flexibility into the decision-making process.