Comments on: My life as a (reluctant) snob. http://www.blisscovery.com/my-life-as-a-reluctant-snob/ Fri, 06 Aug 2010 04:39:13 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.6 hourly 1 By: More adventures in snobbery http://www.blisscovery.com/my-life-as-a-reluctant-snob/comment-page-1/#comment-405 More adventures in snobbery Fri, 12 Feb 2010 16:12:24 +0000 http://www.blisscovery.com/?p=3384#comment-405 [...] to surprise me. And has kinda rocked my proverbial boat because I’d gotten all used to wearing my snobby suit. Cramping my stuck up image and [...] [...] to surprise me. And has kinda rocked my proverbial boat because I’d gotten all used to wearing my snobby suit. Cramping my stuck up image and [...]

]]> By: Pauline Esson http://www.blisscovery.com/my-life-as-a-reluctant-snob/comment-page-1/#comment-403 Pauline Esson Sat, 06 Feb 2010 20:30:56 +0000 http://www.blisscovery.com/?p=3384#comment-403 Oh Briana, This is exactly how it used to be viewed, that I was a snob for not liking what others liked. For years, nay, decades, I thought this to be a bad thing, very very bad. Fellow huge snob here. Lately I've come to be happy with my redefinition.....Now I'm not a snob, I'm discerning. Now I smile sweetly and say yes I love this.....and simply refrain from comment on what my discernment turns away. :) Oh Briana,
This is exactly how it used to be viewed, that I was a snob for not liking what others liked.
For years, nay, decades, I thought this to be a bad thing, very very bad.
Fellow huge snob here. Lately I’ve come to be happy with my redefinition…..Now I’m not a snob, I’m discerning.
Now I smile sweetly and say yes I love this…..and simply refrain from comment on what my discernment turns away. :)

]]> By: elizabeth http://www.blisscovery.com/my-life-as-a-reluctant-snob/comment-page-1/#comment-402 elizabeth Sat, 06 Feb 2010 20:24:41 +0000 http://www.blisscovery.com/?p=3384#comment-402 I remember being forced to dramatically reconfigure my extreme shyness. Not by choice, I might add. It's how I became friends with the person who then stopped speaking to me at the beginning of 12th grade and I had no idea why and couldn't ask and my already shaky self-esteem took another tumble. So yeah .. that went well. And then I reconfigured it again myself after high school until I was extremely outgoing, which was fun, if a bit exhausting. And now I'm back to normal, which is somewhere in the middle of all of that. I always worry that I seem snobby. Because I am shy. Well .. I don't know if shy is the right word. It's just that it is really hard for me to let people into the 6 miles. And I do like to sit back and watch people - especially in large groups. And I spend a lot of time worrying that little things mean that someone doesn't really like me (or like me anymore). Interestingly, all I've ever wanted to do is help people, and it feels like someone who loves people and wants to help them would let everyone in. Except that's not really me. So maybe the problem is really in my own impression of all of this. Ok .. sorry .. I have rambled in your comments. By the way, I think you are extremely sweet with a heart of gold. And yes, suchness - such a perfect word. I remember being forced to dramatically reconfigure my extreme shyness. Not by choice, I might add. It’s how I became friends with the person who then stopped speaking to me at the beginning of 12th grade and I had no idea why and couldn’t ask and my already shaky self-esteem took another tumble. So yeah .. that went well. And then I reconfigured it again myself after high school until I was extremely outgoing, which was fun, if a bit exhausting. And now I’m back to normal, which is somewhere in the middle of all of that.

I always worry that I seem snobby. Because I am shy. Well .. I don’t know if shy is the right word. It’s just that it is really hard for me to let people into the 6 miles. And I do like to sit back and watch people – especially in large groups. And I spend a lot of time worrying that little things mean that someone doesn’t really like me (or like me anymore). Interestingly, all I’ve ever wanted to do is help people, and it feels like someone who loves people and wants to help them would let everyone in. Except that’s not really me. So maybe the problem is really in my own impression of all of this.

Ok .. sorry .. I have rambled in your comments. By the way, I think you are extremely sweet with a heart of gold. And yes, suchness – such a perfect word.

]]> By: briana http://www.blisscovery.com/my-life-as-a-reluctant-snob/comment-page-1/#comment-401 briana Sat, 06 Feb 2010 15:54:45 +0000 http://www.blisscovery.com/?p=3384#comment-401 @Bridget ~ So true, I'm a "close with a few people" rather than "acquaintanances with a bunch" kind of of girl. Yeah, isn't the six mile thing great? Makes it easier for me to grasp. @Kelly ~ Isn't suchness the greatest? Like, my dog doesn't have many strengths (he may argue) but he has the most amazing suchness - high quality suchness. =) @Maya ~ Oh yeah, I think this happens a lot for introverts. I'm kind of on that border of intro-extroversion and that's definitely been a factor for me. And it's hurtful, especially at that high school age, when people misread shyness as something else. Funny the things that remind me of high school or bring up those old patterns. And yes, yay! for the journey. Thanks so much for your sweet comment. @Bridget ~ So true, I’m a “close with a few people” rather than “acquaintanances with a bunch” kind of of girl. Yeah, isn’t the six mile thing great? Makes it easier for me to grasp.

@Kelly ~ Isn’t suchness the greatest? Like, my dog doesn’t have many strengths (he may argue) but he has the most amazing suchness – high quality suchness. =)

@Maya ~ Oh yeah, I think this happens a lot for introverts. I’m kind of on that border of intro-extroversion and that’s definitely been a factor for me. And it’s hurtful, especially at that high school age, when people misread shyness as something else. Funny the things that remind me of high school or bring up those old patterns. And yes, yay! for the journey. Thanks so much for your sweet comment.

]]> By: Maya http://www.blisscovery.com/my-life-as-a-reluctant-snob/comment-page-1/#comment-400 Maya Sat, 06 Feb 2010 04:55:04 +0000 http://www.blisscovery.com/?p=3384#comment-400 Hi Brianna, I absolutely love this post! You have written from your heart once again...with such conviction and centeredness. Good stuff. I was often told in high school (bleck- double bleck!) that I was snobby...and the phrase, "You are too good for us," was something I heard way too often. And...I also cared A LOT about people. I was also painfully shy, an introvert and hadn't yet discovered the extent of my low self-esteem. Ahhhh...the good work/journey. Yay. Love the word "suchness". Soooo much better than strengths. Thank you, Brianna for sharing yourself and for blogging. I so appreciate you. Maya Hi Brianna,
I absolutely love this post!
You have written from your heart once again…with such conviction and centeredness. Good stuff.
I was often told in high school (bleck- double bleck!) that I was snobby…and the phrase, “You are too good for us,” was something I heard way too often.
And…I also cared A LOT about people. I was also painfully shy, an introvert and hadn’t yet discovered the extent of my low self-esteem.
Ahhhh…the good work/journey. Yay.
Love the word “suchness”. Soooo much better than strengths.
Thank you, Brianna for sharing yourself and for blogging. I so appreciate you.
Maya

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]]> By: Kelly Parkinson http://www.blisscovery.com/my-life-as-a-reluctant-snob/comment-page-1/#comment-397 Kelly Parkinson Fri, 05 Feb 2010 20:40:30 +0000 http://www.blisscovery.com/?p=3384#comment-397 Thank you so much giving me the word "suchness." And for this sentence: "I methodically attempted a dramatic reconfiguration of my very suchness." Okay, I recognize myself there. I love this post so much. And yes, I'm a snob-in-recovery. Thank you so much giving me the word “suchness.” And for this sentence: “I methodically attempted a dramatic reconfiguration of my very suchness.” Okay, I recognize myself there. I love this post so much. And yes, I’m a snob-in-recovery.

]]> By: Bridget http://www.blisscovery.com/my-life-as-a-reluctant-snob/comment-page-1/#comment-396 Bridget Fri, 05 Feb 2010 18:00:32 +0000 http://www.blisscovery.com/?p=3384#comment-396 What a refreshing realization! It hadn't occurred to me until you said it, but I just don't have time or mental space for people who aren't my people. It feels to me that when you are bringing a high quality experience to a relationship, you can only do that to so many people before you burn-out if the relationships don't sustain you. So, of course, we must be picky about who we choose to befriend. I like the six-mile comment. That makes a lot of sense. What a refreshing realization! It hadn’t occurred to me until you said it, but I just don’t have time or mental space for people who aren’t my people.

It feels to me that when you are bringing a high quality experience to a relationship, you can only do that to so many people before you burn-out if the relationships don’t sustain you.

So, of course, we must be picky about who we choose to befriend.

I like the six-mile comment. That makes a lot of sense.

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