Comments on: Wherever I go, there I am

By: I shouldn’t need help. But I’m allowed to want it.

I shouldn’t need help. But I’m allowed to want it. — Thu, 21 Jan 2010 15:46:12 +0000

[...] have plenty of experience with using structure as a way to tame my wild tendencies and whip myself into shape. Yuck. Who wants that? And I spent enough years exploring the self-mastery route that I can [...]

By: Sheila of Halo Hill

Sheila of Halo Hill — Thu, 07 Jan 2010 19:33:21 +0000

Wow! Very interesting (and very me). Thank you so much for the insight, I -SO- do this to myself. It is very interesting once you realize it. Thank you so much, this makes so much sense to me, and really hit home. I’m working on figuring out the “instead” thing right now! Thank you!

Hugs,
Sheila

By: The Dictator and the Wild Child. And you.

The Dictator and the Wild Child. And you. — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 15:52:35 +0000

[...] you go, there you are. This is a theme that’s been on my mind lately. As part of my Great Sewing Experiment, I noticed a pattern of punishment woven through my relationship with [...]

By: briana

briana — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 20:17:24 +0000

@Doniree ~ As always, I heart you. Isn’t it weird that it always seems to happen right as something cool (like moderation) clicks into place? Then inner our wild child’s all “not so fast sucker!” But so cool to notice before the punishment. And hot yoga while hungover? Shoot me.

@Josh ~ Yeah, see, the stopping writing altogether is the saddest thing ever. And why beating ourselves up never, ever works. But you’re back to it ~ woot! And I’m glad you came by.

By: Josh

Josh — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 13:36:19 +0000

I know exactly how you feel. I committed to National Novel Writing Month (this month) and totally flaked on it. Then I spent a week beating myself up over it, so much so that it made me stop writing all together. That’s just stupid as hell. As you can see, I am back at it despite another month with no quick formula novel. Oh well, I’m gonna go stare at some goats now.

I enjoyed your post, great job.

By: Doniree

Doniree — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 17:55:24 +0000

I had a similar moment a few weeks ago. Yoga keeps teaching us to be good to our bodies, compassionate, etc., and to do things in moderation, etc.

Literally the day AFTER I was all “Moderation! Yes!” I went out and got HAMMERED. I didn’t mean to; I wasn’t paying for the drinks so whenever there was one in front of me, I kept going with it.

Not awesome. The next day I had a thought about going to a hot yoga class so I could sweat out the toxins and as sort of a penance for my ‘bad behavior.’

And then I realized that’s SO the opposite of yoga. So I took a non-heated, gentle class and remembered to be kind to myself instead of trying to PUNISH me for messing up.

Where do those thoughts even come from??