Comments on: You’re not the boss of me. Anymore.

By: I don’t want to be good at that. For you.

I don’t want to be good at that. For you. — Mon, 19 Apr 2010 22:26:53 +0000

[...] some time exploring how to be my own best employee. And, erm, boss. Because sometimes the boss living inside my head is a wee bit harsh. And then I become the big, mean grown-up squelching any childlike curiosity. [...]

By: Why you might want a sailboat. Or a time-management plan.

Why you might want a sailboat. Or a time-management plan. — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 18:40:48 +0000

[...] when I left my corporate career, the one where I tracked my billable time in six minute increments, I abhorred the idea of enforcing a rigid structure to my work [...]

By: Jim Ryan

Jim Ryan — Sun, 31 Jan 2010 19:04:22 +0000

Hmm. Enlisting others to help with motivation is an interesting idea. I often find that I can’t get myself to do things for myself to save my life but if I have something I’ve agreed to do for someone else I can become almost laser-focused on it. But the question of how to do MY projects as though I was doing them for someone else is one I’ve been struggling with for quite a while. Very good.

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Sun, 17 Jan 2010 15:03:07 +0000

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By: Apparently the internet wants to give us advice

Apparently the internet wants to give us advice — Wed, 23 Dec 2009 16:02:51 +0000

[...] time. So last week I wanted to pay attention to how I deal with accountability… whether I’d follow through on my stuff out of people-pleasing or whether I’d [...]

By: briana

briana — Fri, 18 Dec 2009 16:19:05 +0000

@Victoria ~ Okay, seriously? Knowing that we’re crazy in a normal way rather than crazy in a crazy way is the best reassurance ever!

@Lydia ~ Yes, that is exactly what I mean, only I think you expressed it with a lot more clarity!

@Andrew ~ Hey there, I’m actually a lurker over at your blog, which is awesome by the way. Oh that is so sad to beat ourselves up over something we might eventually screw up in the future (or not). I totally get that, and Oy indeed. I sometimes get this sense of “uh-oh, I’m going to get in trouble.” I wonder if the fact that we’re noticing is a step toward freedom? I hope so.

By: Andrew Lightheart @alightheart

Andrew Lightheart @alightheart — Fri, 18 Dec 2009 11:19:20 +0000

Totally. Totally totally totally.

Sometimes I give that role to business partner – and he really doesn’t want it.

Sometimes I just do it by creating terrible scenarios in my head and then beating myself up *in advance* for something *that hasn’t happened and very probably never will*.

Oy.

Oh, and now I’m blogging as me (rather than an expert) I’ve created the Blog Police, too, apparently.

Sigh.

One thing that worked for me before was to have an accountability call with a friend of mine who was also a small biz owner.

We gave each other questions to ask and all the other person did was ask and listen to the answers.

They were also able to say things like, ‘I notice that you’ve said ‘No’ to that question for three days now. Are you ok with that?’.

Worked very well, until we moved into different time zones.

Glad I found your blog. I’ve been trying a weekly focus for a few weeks now – it doesn’t necessarily mean I only learn things about that thing, but it certainly gives me a container to hold my observations in. As you said.

Nice.

By: Lydia, Clueless Crafter

Lydia, Clueless Crafter — Thu, 17 Dec 2009 19:07:51 +0000

I just found you through the above lovely woman and like what I’ve read (if I actually read it right?). Are you saying that you’ve noticed how, despite being free of a boss, you’ve found that you have at times created a not so helpful, critical boss for yourself? That you’ve appropriated the boss role onto your newfound freedom, entrepreneurship? Is so, I totally get it. This is a great thought, one I should tune in on.

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By: Victoria Brouhard

Victoria Brouhard — Tue, 15 Dec 2009 00:02:39 +0000

Oooh…that morphing of the healthy into the unhealthy? I completely get that, especially when it comes to commitments and accountability.

And totally off the cuff, so I don’t have an answer, but I wonder what that tendency-to-morph part of us is afraid of if we achieve “successful” accountability.

I suppose the answer might be different depending on whether we were dealing with the taskmaster side or the slacker side of ourselves.

Hmmm…definitely going to have to ponder that for a bit. It’s fun to see so much similarity in our stuff…let’s me know that I’m crazy in a normal way, rather than crazy in a crazy way. Or something.